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WHAT IS MISATTUNEMENT?

The cumulative effect of chronic misattunement is pervasive tension, compounding friction, pain and harm. Without adequate repair and integration, the natural misattuned-attuned cycle does not create growth, it debilitates life. It shows up in all six important systems, not just individual human beings.

In the Individual: Emotions aren't reliable signals but overwhelming, misdirecting, forces to be managed. Gone is the ability to differentiate between primary feelings and secondary protective emotions. Disembodiment is the experience. The body becomes hyper & hypo activated, for increased pain, discomfort or disconnection and numbness. Protection not connection is the name of the game. These parts dominate and the experience of Self is illusive and disorganized, making Self-leadership challenging.

In Relationships: Intimate interactions are driven by fear, misdirected or supressed anger & fear, and chaos and rigidity is the name of the game. As Betty Martin describes, "power over" defines relating (even internally from Self to parts) and sometimes unconsciously cause attempts to get needs met that are guised or distorted rather than clear and agreed.

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How much Self energy are you working with? (key to emotional fortitude in high-stakes decision making)

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ATTUNED ATTACHMENT

All insecure relating falls under the umbrella of chronic, compounding misattunement (unless someone is on the journey to earning secure attachment through attunement)

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Indviduals

Chronic misattunement harms your body and limits your personal power, potential & intelligence.

Recalibration & healing can change the experience and expression. Start with internal attunement.

Intimacy

Misattunement is more than misunderstanding. It's a chronic pattern of unmet needs that never find resolution.

It impacts our nervous system, can have compounding negative effects on our lived experience and the way we express ourselves.

Helping Professionals

What are you modeling & embodying  in your marketing? Is your business attuned to the agency & needs of your clients?

The flow of exchange, agreement and value does have fundamental principles to leverage.

Citizens

Understanding & practicing attunement enables you to discern in a world of misdirection and chaos. 

Equip yourself with mental & emotional clarity and acuity, organize and attract collaborators. 

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ATTUNE TOGETHER

Free global community of individuals, clinicians and leaders committed to self-attunement and collective attunement & capacitation. Join us on Substack to be first notified upon launch.

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SELF-ATTUNE

Come join along, read and contribute, as you find the most effective path of growth possible for your particulars, while making you resistant to brilliant misdirectors who typically disguise themselves until it's too late.

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MARKETING ATTUNEMENT

What is attuned marketing, and what's coercive? It's not always as obvious as you may think. The way to discern and decifer who's empowering others and who's manipulating them comes from internal & external attunement. Not one or the other, both. At the same time. Does your marketing depend on dysregulation?

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BUSINESS ATTUNEMENT

What if there are two types of power & influence? One that empowers, uplifts, capacitates and creates. The other dominates, forces, stiffles and dysregulates. What does that mean for business design, development and ethics?

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